Unicorn Dates is designed to be simple: create a profile, find people who want the same kind of connection, talk, and meet when everyone is ready. This page walks through each step and shares some tips that make each one go more smoothly, whether you are a couple looking for a third or a single person curious about dating a couple.
Step 1: Choose who you are
When you Signup Here, the first question is simple: are you a man, a woman, a couple or CD/trans? That choice shapes how your profile appears and who sees it. Couples create one shared profile that introduces both partners. Singles create a profile that explains what they are curious about.
If you are a couple, sign up together if you can. Choosing words and photos side by side is a useful first conversation about what you both want. If one of you is doing the setup, make sure the other reads and approves the profile before it goes live.
Step 2: Write your profile
Your profile is the most important part of your experience. On a site like this, most decisions happen before anyone sends a message. A clear, friendly profile attracts thoughtful replies and quietly discourages people who want something different.
A good profile usually covers:
- Who you are: a few lines about each partner, or about yourself if you are single.
- What you are looking for: one evening, something regular, or open to seeing where it goes.
- Who you hope to meet: a single woman, a single man, a couple, or open to any.
- What a first meeting might look like: a drink, a coffee, a video call first.
- Anything important to you: boundaries, discretion, sexual health.
Our guide on how to write a couples profile has examples. Singles may find our guide for singles useful too.
Step 3: Add photos
Profiles with photos receive far more attention than those without. Choose a few recent, natural photos taken in good light. Couples should include at least one photo of both partners together. If you prefer privacy, cropped photos, photos from behind or photos with faces blurred are fine. You can share clearer photos privately once you trust someone. Avoid explicit photos in your public gallery. They tend to attract the wrong kind of attention.
Step 4: Browse and search
Once your profile is ready, browse members near you or further afield. Read profiles properly rather than judging on photos alone. Couples should look for singles whose interests and boundaries fit their own. Singles should look for couples who seem thoughtful, where both partners are clearly involved. Take your time. You do not need to message everyone.
Step 5: Start a conversation
A good first message is short, specific and friendly. Mention something from their profile, say a little about yourselves and ask an easy question. Generic openers rarely get replies. If you are a couple, say who is writing and make sure both partners join the conversation over time. If a conversation is not going anywhere, a polite "I don't think we're a match, good luck" is kinder than silence.
Our etiquette guide covers messaging manners in more detail.
Step 6: Talk about expectations and boundaries
Before you meet, talk about what everyone hopes for and what is off the table. Couples should share their boundaries and ask the single about hers. Singles should ask whether both partners are equally interested, what happens if one of them wants to stop, and how they approach sexual health. These conversations can feel awkward, but they make a first meeting far more relaxed. Our guide on setting boundaries has a worksheet you can use.
Step 7: Have a video call
A short video call before meeting is one of the best things you can do. It confirms everyone is who they say they are, lets you hear each other's voices, and helps you decide whether you would enjoy spending an evening together. Ten minutes is usually enough. If someone refuses a call but pushes hard to meet, treat that as a warning sign.
Step 8: Meet somewhere public
For a first meeting, choose a public place: a bar, a cafe or a hotel lounge. Agree beforehand that it is simply a chance to meet. Singles should arrange their own transport and tell a friend where they will be. Couples should decide how they will check in with each other during the evening. If everyone gets on, you can talk afterwards about whether and how to meet again. Our safety guide has a full first-meeting checklist.
Step 9: Check in afterwards
After the meeting, couples should talk privately about how it felt for each of them. Then get in touch with the single, thank her, and say honestly whether you would like to meet again. Singles can do the same. If you want to continue, keep talking about boundaries as you get to know each other. If you do not, end things kindly.
Membership
You can create a profile and look around before deciding whether to upgrade. Paid memberships unlock more of the site. Every membership option, with its length and price, is on our pricing page.
Staying safe throughout
At every stage, use common sense. Never send money to someone you have not met. Keep personal details private until you trust someone. Report profiles that look fake or behave badly. Our safety page explains how to report concerns and how to protect your privacy.
Frequently asked questions
How long does it take to sign up?
A few minutes for the basics. Writing a good profile takes a little longer, and it is worth the effort.
Do we need to download an app?
No. Unicorn Dates runs in your browser on phones, tablets and computers.
Can we change our profile later?
Yes. Update it whenever you like. Many couples refine their profile as they learn what works.
What if we are not sure what we want yet?
That is fine. Say you are new and curious, and that you would like to get to know people slowly. Plenty of members are in the same position.
Tips for couples
Couples who do well on Unicorn Dates tend to share a few habits. They write their profile together and keep it honest. They both take part in conversations. They reply promptly and kindly. They talk about boundaries before meeting, not halfway through an evening. They suggest public first meetings without being asked. And they check in with each other after every date. None of this is complicated, but it makes a real difference to how singles respond.
Tips for singles
Singles who enjoy the site most tend to be clear about what they want and selective about who they reply to. Read couples' profiles carefully, look for signs that both partners are involved, ask the questions that matter to you and never feel obliged to meet. You can take as long as you like to get to know a couple before deciding.